I know my natural response when someone has hurt me is to react and decide, “Well, you’re off my list! I don’t have to put up with that kind of treatment! I’ll just withhold my love from you.”
But as we have been learning, moments like these are precisely when you and I need to have supernatural victory and be kind instead. This supernatural act requires God, and the Holy Spirit to fill us with His kindness.
Choose today your number one “problem person” and take him or her before the Lord in prayer.
I also want you to take before God your pain, your harsh thoughts, your temptations to respond in an unchristian manner, and your confessions of times when you’ve given in to those thoughts or temptations. Acknowledge those time you were unkind as well as any other time you were unkind. Then go a step further and ask God to help you show His kindness to the very person who hurt you, who caused you pain, who is causing you to suffer, and who is making your life miserable. For love suffers patiently and is KIND (1 Corinthians 13:4)
TIPS FOR BEING KIND
- Pray for your enemies – those people who mistreat and use you (Luke 6:28). You will find you cannot hate a person you are praying for. You also can’t neglect that person. Try it! You’ll find these statements to be true because prayer and hatred don’t go together. Neither do prayer and neglect.
- Spend time with God owning up to any ill will you have toward an individual or group of people. Ask for God’s help in demonstrating the Spirit’s kindness to those people.
- Ask God to help you become known more as a comforter and less as a confronter
- Study Jesus’ life for more examples of kindness and then follow in His steps. Keep a journal of those instances of His kindness as you discover them, noting the circumstances surrounding His graciousness
- Begin making the effort at home to live out God’s command to be kind to others (Ephesians 4:32) What does your husband need? Your children? Or your roommates? What would make their life easier?
- Pray for God to fill your heart with His compassion as you walk each day and every step along the way with Him
Note: The above information is a study taken from the book, “A Woman’s Walk With God, Growing in the Fruit of the Spirit” by Elizabeth George